Criticism is expressing disapproval towards someone or something due to perceived flaws or errors.
It can positively impact personal growth and development and shatter self-esteem.
Criticism is rooted in facts and evidence, while judgment is often based on personal bias and assumptions.
It’s common to judge someone based solely on their appearance without giving them a chance to show who they are.
I avoid loud and overly opinionated individuals, those who lack self-respect, and those who fail to take pride in their work.
I do not consider myself superior to others, but I hold myself to high standards.
Constructive criticism can be a powerful tool for growth and improvement when given to build up rather than tear down. When used effectively, it can lead to valuable and fulfilling outcomes.
Jumping to conclusions about others without solid proof is detrimental because it leads to preconceived notions of their inevitable failure.
External factors frequently disrupt relationships by developing a negative bias against an individual without valid justification, resulting in deterioration.
Many failed relationships result from unrealistic standards set by others willing to recognise that their potential partners must meet specific criteria.
While dating, I constantly measured every man against my Father. It was only natural, considering he was the first man I knew, and I had a strong, loving bond with him. He possessed all the qualities I hoped to find in a future partner.
Finding a replica of someone else is impossible, as everyone is a unique entity with distinct qualities.
While it’s important not to compromise your standards, it’s also okay to be flexible if the essential ingredients are present.
I approach my relationships with perfectionism, valuing domestic and academic qualities in a partner.
My parents were a dynamic duo — my father was capable of anything, and my mother was equally skilled. No task was too small or too big for them to tackle together. They enjoyed working on DIY projects, and both had a knack for cooking delicious meals in the kitchen.
The values and skills ingrained in us during our formative years often shape our preferences when seeking the perfect partner.
I need to be able to cook and handle DIY tasks, yet I’ve observed that some grown individuals lack proficiency in these areas.
I strongly avert impatience and a deep disdain for those who lack pride in their work. As a perfectionist, I prioritise thoroughness and demand that tasks be executed to a high standard. I have a low tolerance for hasty or careless work.
I closely supervise skilled labourers when they visit my home for repairs or services.
Being in a business, one would naturally prioritise customer satisfaction. However, past disappointments have led me to lose faith in people and their ability to meet these expectations.
I once booked a room at a guest house for a few days.
Images on a website can often be misleading, so I always check the reviews before deciding. I had stayed at this place before and was so impressed that I knew I had to come back for a second time.
When I returned to the room, I was disheartened to discover its unkempt state, filthy floors, and unhealthy atmosphere. I had to request a vacuum cleaner from the reception to rectify the situation.
I reached my breaking point when the man lazily tried to vacuum the floor in my presence. It was at that moment that I resolved never to return.
While judgment may only sometimes be seen as a positive quality, I have never been proven wrong.
I consciously refrain from passing judgment on others, preferring to give people the benefit of the doubt. Despite this, I have found that my assessments are often spot-on.
I sometimes overlook that we each have our standards and preferences.
While I value cleanliness, others may be okay with living amongst dirt. It’s not my role to judge them for their lifestyle choices, and I have no reason to intervene if they don’t impact me personally.
It is common for individuals to be evaluated based on their outward appearance and actions; however, it is essential to avoid making assumptions or categorising them into broad stereotypes.
According to my mom, my style leans more towards the masculine side. However, I don’t consider it a negative comment because she’s correct. I prefer the comfort of my sporty and casual attire over dressing up every day.
However, for those rare special events, I dress to impress. I take pride in my ability to rise to the occasion when necessary, and others perceive me as refined and unique.
At times, I find myself listening to the critical voices that start to whisper in my head.
‘You’ve stopped believing in yourself. Have you considered trying out dresses and skirts? It might be difficult to connect with someone if you’re always dressed like a boy.’
‘Don’t judge me by my looks. I’m clean and well-groomed, always smell nice, and love unisex clothing. I am not seeking to impress anyone. I’m not an exhibition.’
The best part is that I no longer concern myself with others’ opinions—I am confident in my style and dress.
The truth remains that no matter what, people will always find a way to pass judgment on you.
I can naturally build strong relationships with individuals from diverse backgrounds, whether they have crossed paths or are familiar with me.
I believe in allowing people to grow and change despite their past mistakes. If someone is willing to make a positive change, I will support and encourage them on their journey.
I discovered that avoiding anything or anyone that disrupted my equilibrium was the key to handling life’s challenges effectively.
Putting yourself first may require making difficult decisions that disappoint others, but it is essential for your well-being.
In everything, there must be a balance.
Natalie M Bleau
Scripture of Balance
