“I will be there for you, when they all start slandering your name, because you are my friend, although I will tell you the truth, I will always stand by you.” Natalie Bleau
A true friend does not just have the qualities of being caring and supportive in good times and bad times, a true friend will not be afraid to tell you when you are in the wrong.
People fall out with each other because the word ’best friend’ is taken lightly, as it is based on selfish motives, on how much they can benefit and how much compliments they receive.
Personally, I love meeting new people in person and adding them to my friendship networks on social media you can’t have enough friends. However, there is a difference between people you network with and close friends.
You can know some people for most of your life and yet have no real emotional connection with them they are just like another character in part of the story.
The qualities of a real friendship is built on trust, honesty and accepting the other person as they are and not taking advantage of them.
I have been in a situation where I was forever playing the role of counsellor, adviser and confidante, the girl became dependent on me and after a few years I had to kindly advise her to start becoming more proactive in sorting out her personal life skills. She got very upset and ended our friendship.
This experience unsettled me for a while and I tried to make things right, we were real friends, she rejected me and admitted that she wanted me all to herself.
I never got involved in that kind of close friendship again, I missed her, but I knew that if I did not move on, I would not have spiritually grown. I realised that no matter how much I cared about her I had to move on with my life.
Today I have loads of people that I would say are friends, but never again will I have an exclusively close friendship with another being. I like my uncomplicated life where I can be free to be around as many people as I want without having to feel guilty of involuntarily hurting others.
I believe that I needed to have the experience of having a person, other than my family, who would stand up for me, even though it did not have the correct balance.
We all need to balance our relationship with others because without the correct balance, it may last, but it won’t be a happy journey. We have to take responsibility for righting the wrong. A loving relationship will not achieve anything good if it is one-sided.
Look within yourself today, honestly examine the pros and cons of the way you see the role you play in your relationships or friendships.
Is there a balance? If not, what can be changed by either of you?
In everything there must be a balance in order to have that healthy relationship/friendship.
Natalie Bleau
The Scripture of Balance
You make a very good point. Friendships must be rooted in mutual respect and be without possessiveness