Have you really lived your life?
Could you say that I have done everything I ever wanted to do, I have lived.
This is a complicated subject that I was requested by a special person, to write about. People would say “Yes I have lived my life” my question would be “ do you feel that your life has been fulfilled.”
You need to really think about this question before you can answer it. I am not talking about the automatic mundane routine of everyday life.
It has taken me a long time to discover my true purpose and a real passion in life. Unlike my friends, marriage and children was not on my bucket list.
I love being independent, not having to declare anything. I had the freedom of choice without debate. I felt free in the knowledge that as long as I did not hurt anybody in anyway I could do as I pleased.
Throughout my twenties I had the opportunity to travel around the world, meet loads of different people, learn diverse cultures, but I never did, I made my circles small, and wasted the most of my time. I had no real purpose.
It’s only been the past ten years, that I have started living in the moment, I have found my passion in listening to the struggles of others and giving them positive direction. I have worked as a complimentary therapist with patients that are receiving end of life care. That is my passion for living.
I don’t think many people would be able to give me a straight answer. They may have felt their life was fulfilled by bringing up their children but what happens when the children grow up? Do you then wait for them to marry and have grand children? What about your life?
If you found yourself on your own, after being in a secure relationship for most of your life, what are you going to do next, to fill the rest of your life?
My definition of existing is just doing the automatic things that you are supposed to do in whatever your role is in life as your duty to others. Just working to have food on your plate and a roof over your head.
Part of the rat race and if you’re lucky to have enough spare cash left over after paying the rent maybe a treat.
Living is making the most out of every moment in everything you do and looking forward with an optimistic view. Looking after yourself before you take on anyone else’s problems. Being mindful and showing gratitude.
I believe that we have been conditioned to just get on with life and rise above our stresses and problems. Switch off our emotions, be strong like our ancestors were made to be.
Today we are able to see therapists to help us recognise the tools that we have and to encourage us to try to search for our positives.
I don’t believe that we are going to be fulfilled unless we embrace who we are and not who we were conditioned to be.
We must spend our lives not living for others approval but for our own happiness. We must be true to ourselves and really look within us to find our true self.
Everyone is an individual we are brought up by our carer’s beliefs, just as they have been, but there is a time when we should be starting to think for ourselves and learn who we really are, only then can we really live.
In everything there must be a balance , after all we are accountable for ourselves. When you are at the end of your life will you be able to say I lived my life to the fullest.
The Scripture of Balance